Lessons Learned from Failed Dates

Chances are you've had a bad date once or twice in your lifetime. Some of us even go through a series of bad dates before finding that special someone. Yet, bad dates can be a great teaching tool which, in turn, will strengthen the odds for better dating experiences down the road.

Perhaps my poor dating experiences can benefit you. Here--in no particular order--are five things I learned when single:

1. Never Give Anyone Your Address—Even if You're A Guy! Over coffee on a first date, a slightly unhinged woman threatened to kill herself if I ever left her. I quickly ended the date, fearing for my life and hers. That was the wise, self-preserving thing to do. However, I forgot that I had given her my address. The next day, she angrily appears on my doorstep, calls me everything but a Child of God, and then proceeds to call everyone by my last name in the phone book—telling them what a lowlife, two-timing loser I was to her! Thank God she didn't carry a weapon!
2. I Talk Too Much! I discovered this when I had a first date with a pretty blonde who spoke incessantly—even while chewing her food. Perhaps she was nervous, but I couldn't get a word in edge-wise. I learned so much about her—and, surprisingly, about myself: I do talk too much! I was a male version of this lady—too talkative and me-oriented. From hereon out, I vowed to listen more and talk less.
3. Never Use A Date's Computer—Until You Really Know That Person! One night, my phone rang while I was in a popular fast-food restaurant. My then-girlfriend wanted to know who so-and-so was and why did she send a “hugz” my way. I quickly learned she had checked her computer's history. While my 'hugz” came from a platonic female friend, her assumptions hurt our relationship and broke my heart.
4. Bringing Children on a First Date is A Major Mistake! I am an older parent of two adopted children who met another older parent. We clicked so well on the phone, but had our children for the weekend. Mister Wizard (me) to the rescue: Why don't we meet at a popular indoor arcade for kids? We did, and it was a complete disaster. Not only do you fail to share quality time together, the children interrupt you every minute or so—because they are children. It isn't their fault; it's ours! Especially mine.
5. Even If You Click, You Can't Hurry Love! More than a few times in my life, I've rushed into a relationship—only to frighten the object of my affection away. Some I fondly recall with slightly cute nicknames, like Golfing Woman or Coffee Lady. I discovered I was moving too fast. It was like the Tortoise and the Hare: Slow and Steady wins the race.

Though none of these dates turned into a lifetime romance, I've learned from each and every date. Perhaps, by reading this, you'll avoid some of the dating mistakes I did.

How A Boomer Should Meet An Online Date for The Very First Time

Middle age is a great time to find someone special. For most of us, our children have left home and we have plenty of time on our hands. Too much time, in fact. The silent echo of a quiet home is almost unbearable. We're too young for the rocking chair! We refuse to sit idly by on the sidelines and accept a simple life of frozen dinners, crosswords, and The Wheel! We're healthy, vibrant human beings craving human contact—wherever he or she may be!

Find someone special through online dating!

Unless you've lived in a shotgun shack miles away from civilization, you know the dating scene has changed since our 20s. Instead of cruising bars or being set up by well-meaning, yet clueless friends, you're only feet away from finding friendship, dates, or (maybe) romance:

1. Online dating is safer than traditional dating. You have the opportunity to learn a little about the person prior to your first face-to-face meeting. Online technology even allows you to search the person's name in a database of convicted felons, deviants, or dregs of society!
2. Online dating is more cost-effective than traditional dating. Save on gas! Let your fingers do the the walking with an online search for Mister or Miss Right!
3. Online dating gives you more control! No more strange people hitting on you! No more drunken flirts spilling drinks in your lap! At the touch of a button, you can decide who you do and don't want to meet!
4. Online dating offers a wider selection of people from a greater variety of backgrounds than anywhere else! Seeking marriage? Find it online! Seeking a casual relationship? Find it online!Seeking a baby boomer? Of course, you can find that, too! From the spiritual to the flirty, from the affluent to the international, you can find that special someone online!

Met someone online? Talk with them by phone first!

Once you meet a potential match online, it's tempting to invite them out for a cup of coffee or drink so you can get to know them better! Resist that temptation! Talk with them on the phone first!

1. For safety's sake, get to know them better! Honestly, how much do you know about this person from a couple of online texts or chats? They could be a hoarder, stalker, or serial killer, for all you know!
2. Listen carefully to their voice for signals, clues, even inflections. A voice often indicates personality, intelligence, and character traits. Whining or slow talking voices turn me off. How about you?
3. Carry on a relaxed conversation with your potential match. Listen closely to them for hidden signals. Are your interests, beliefs, and desires on the same page? Are they trying to hide something? Are their answers too brief—mostly Yes or No answers? Do they sound dull, lifeless, or boring? Are they putting you to sleep? Do they speak secretively or softly because their spouse or significant other is in the other room? Warning: 35% of daters—online or off—are married!

If it's A Go...Schedule to meet face-to-face!

You've decided the person is not a serial killer, freak, or married person (unless you want a no strings relationship). Now's the time to meet each other! Do yourself a favor...

1. If meeting is a mutual go, schedule to meet them in the next few days! You want to see if this potential match has potential, right? Don't prolong the meeting for a week or so! Be like Nike: Just do it!
2. Schedule to meet your potential date in a well-lit location. Never—ever--meet at their home or in a dark, secluded place. Think safety—even if you are a guy or believe you can handle yourself in any situation.
3. Meet at a well-lit coffee house or fast food place for polite conversation. Perhaps that sounds cheap, but there is little sense in going overboard if your date fizzles or there's no connection. Besides, remember: This is a meeting, not a date.

Keep the meeting brief—about an hour!

Some of us are talkative, myself included. But try—I emphasize try—to keep the meeting to an hour. This shows respect for the person you met. During your initial meeting:

1. Make sure the person looks like their online dating profile photo. I know that sounds crazy, but I once met a woman who looked nothing like her profile photo—taken ten years earlier! One of my female friends once met a guy who used Richard Dreyfuss's photo to attract women. Funny thing was: The guy looked nothing like Dreyfuss, and was actually ten years younger than the acclaimed actor!
2. Listen more; talk less. You learn so much more about the other person when you speak less. Also, it doesn't hurt if you actually show interest in what your potential match is talking about. If that is impossible, I would suggest politely exiting from the meeting altogether. You're wasting everyone's time if you don't.
3. Look for non-verbal clues—such as body language, eye contact, or even sense of smell. Does he or she seem sincerely interested in you? Is this mutual? Is he or she able to look you straight in the eyes, and vice versa? Does he or she smell like they just escaped from a pig farm?
4. Find common ground—if you can—for a second date. Other than physical attraction, it is so important to discover some similar interests, beliefs, ideas, and backgrounds with your potential match. Sure, you can have differences, but too many could spell out a total dating disaster. For example, I am an extroverted, fairly talkative guy who enjoys the outdoors and indoors equally. I would not be a good match for a shy wallflower who disliked the outdoors. Yet, good news! There is someone online for everyone!

If you succeed...Ask for a real date.

There is no better than the present to set a date to have a real date—as long as you both believe the chemistry was right. I once clicked with a woman and the feelings were mutual. Yet, I waited a few days to call her back, and she had other plans—with someone else. If the feelings are mutual, don't hesitate—ask him or her out!

If at first you don't succeed...

If you failed to connect during your first meeting, don't give up! But it is rarely wise to ask for another meeting. Odds are you'll unlikely click! Yet, if you don't connect, remember this:

1. You didn't fail! Even if the planets were perfectly aligned, some people would never click. There are a wide-variety of reasons—from looks to personality, from interests to beliefs. Don't dwell on this! Move on! Believe me...unless you are an asexual hermit, there is somebody out there for everyone. (Besides, if you were an asexual hermit, odds are you would not be reading this article! Am I right?)
2. Each meeting is a learning experience. You discover the type of person you wish to meet—not to mention some to avoid like the plague.
3. Each meeting brings you closer to that special someone. You know what I'm talking about: That one, unique individual you can't stop thinking about. That rare somebody who makes you smile, laugh, and enjoy life a little more than anyone else. He or she may even make your toes curl!
4. Never give up on finding that special someone with whom to share life! Online dating offers someone for everybody—including us baby boomers. If I can do it, so can you!

May you be richly blessed by finding that special someone online!

Here's to your success!--Brian

Exhaustion and Anxiety

Why do some people have a problem with anxiety and others do not?

This is a question almost everyone who experiences anxiety asks themselves at some point or another. Why me?

My understanding of anxiety is that yes, some people seem more susceptible than others but that the key trigger tends to be exhaustion. By exhaustion I mean mental, physical, or emotional exhaustion. (Under physical exhaustion I also include things like diet or substance abuse)

For some it may be exhaustion caused by a hectic life and never taking time to release the stress. People like that often do not notice their stress levels are so high until they get blindsided by a spontaneous panic attack.
For others it may be an emotional exhaustion caused by the loss of a loved one or the break up of a long term relationship.

If the anxiety is caused by a traumatic life event it is interesting to note that the person frequently does not experience the anxiety until the event has passed.

You often see people dealing very well with a crisis but then several weeks later when the dust has settled they start to feel the anxiety. It is like they have been in shock and are only now starting to process the experience.

The most important thing to remember about panic attacks or general anxiety is that help is available and it is important to get help sooner rather than later.

I always recommend visiting your doctor first of all to really determine that it is just anxiety you are dealing with and not an underlying physical ailment. Once you are sure that it is anxiety that you dealing with, treat it.
Don’t wait

Burying your head in the sand hoping it will simply be gone next week is not an effective way to treat it. It is totally unnecessary to spend months if not years dealing with something that can be corrected now.
That help is available right here.

The Panic Away Program changes the way you process your anxiety enabling you to end panic attacks and general anxiety. It costs no more than a dinner for two but can change your life so much for the better. Invest in the right kind of information. Information that puts you back in control of your life. That is the best kind of investment you can make.

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To your success,
Barry McDonagh
Panic Away

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Eliminate Anxiety and Panic Attacks For Good

If you suffer from…

* Palpitations
* a pounding heart, or an accelerated heart rate
* Sweating
* Trembling or shaking
* Shortness of breath
* A choking sensation
* Chest pain or discomfort
* Nausea or stomach cramps
* Derealization (a feeling of unreality)
* Fear of losing control or going crazy
* Fear of dying Numbness or a tingling sensation
* Chills or hot flashes

(Source: American Psychiatric Association. Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition, Text Revision (DSM-IV-TR) 2000 Washington, DC.)

…then you’ve experienced firsthand some of the possible symptoms of a panic or anxiety attack. If you are reading this page because a loved one suffers from these symptoms and you are trying to understand or help, it’s hard to appreciate what they go through.

Just try to imagine what it feels like to experience one, if you can.

Here is a typical example:

Standing in a supermarket queue, it’s been a long wait but only one customer to go before you make it to the cashier. Wait, what was that sensation? An unpleasant feeling forms in your throat, your chest feels tighter, now a sudden shortness of breath, and what do you know—your heart skips a beat. “Please, God, not here.”

A quick scan of the territory—is it threatening? Four unfriendly faces queue behind, one person in front. Pins and needles seem to prick you through your left arm, you feel slightly dizzy, and then the explosion of fear as you dread the worst. You are about to have a panic attack.

There is no doubt in your mind now that this is going to be a
big one. Okay, focus: Remember what you have been taught, and it is time now to apply the coping techniques. Begin the deep breathing exercise your doctor recommended. In through the nose, out through the mouth.

Think relaxing thoughts, and again, while breathing in, think “Relax,” and then breathe out. But it doesn’t seem to be having any positive effect; in fact, just concentrating on breathing is making you feel self-conscious and more uptight.

Okay, coping technique 2:

Gradual muscle relaxation. Tense both shoulders, hold for 10 seconds, then release. Try it again. No; still no difference. The anxiety is getting worse and the very fact that you are out of coping techniques worsens your panic. If only you were surrounded by your family, or a close friend were beside you so you could feel more confident in dealing with this situation.

Now, the adrenaline is really pumping through your system, your body is tingling with uncomfortable sensations, and now the dreaded feeling of losing complete control engulfs your emotions. No one around you has any idea of the sheer terror you are experiencing. For them, it’s just a regular day and another frustratingly slow queue in the supermarket.

You are out of options. Time for Plan C.

The most basic coping skill of all is “fleeing.” Excuse yourself from the queue; you are slightly embarrassed as it is now that it is your turn to pay. The cashier is looking bewildered as you leave your shopping behind and stroll towards the door. There is no time for excuses—you need to be alone. You leave the supermarket and get into your car to ride it out alone. Could this be the big one? The one you fear will push you over the edge mentally and physically. Ten minutes later the panic subsides.

It’s 10:30 a.m. How are you going to make it through the rest of the day?

If you suffer from panic or anxiety attacks, the above scenerio probably sounds very familiar. It may have even induced feelings of anxiety and panic just reading it. The particular situations that trigger your panic and anxiety may differ; maybe the bodily sensations are a little different. Or maybe it happened to you for the first time on a plane, in the dentist chair, or even at home, while doing nothing in particular.

If you have ever had what has become known as a “panic attack,” take comfort in the fact that you are by no means alone.

A panic attack always comes with the acute sense of impending doom. You feel you are either about to lose your mind or one of your vital bodily functions is about to cease functioning and you will end your days right there among the canned goods and frozen food.

You are by no means alone; you’re not even one in a million. In America, it is estimated that almost 5% of the population suffer from some form of anxiety disorder. For some, it may be the infrequent panic attacks that only crop up in particular situations-like when having to speak in front of others, while, for other people, it can be so frequent and recurring that it inhibits them from leaving their home. Frequent panic attacks often develop into what medical physicians refer to as an “anxiety disorder.”

One of the first steps to regaining control of your life is getting helpful information. This site will give you that, and more.

The beginning of your recovery starts here. What you will learn is that there is a very good chance you are about to end the cycle of panic attacks in your life. You will learn not only to regain the carefree life you remember once having, but will also gain new confidence in living. Your answer to living free from “panic” or “anxiety attacks” is at hand.

This site demonstrates that the panic and anxiety that you have experienced will be the very key to your courage and success.

Begin the road to recovery by browsing through the site. While many of you may have read almost everything you can possibly read relating to panic and anxiety I assure you this site offers something very effective.

Did you know…?

The key difference between someone who is cured of panic attacks and those who are not is really very simple. The people who are cured no longer fear panic attacks. I’ll try to show you how to be one of these people as well.

What if I told you the trick to ending panic and anxiety attacks is to want to have one. That sounds strange, even contradictory, but let me explain.

The trick to panic attacks is wanting to have one-the wanting pushes it away. Can you have a panic attack in this very second? No!

You know the saying that “what you resist, persists.” Well that saying applies perfectly to fear. If you resist a situation out of fear, the fear around that issue will persist. How do you stop resisting–you move directly into it, into the path of the anxiety, and by doing so it cannot persist.

In essence what this means is that if you daily voluntarily seek to have a panic attack, you cannot have one. Try in this very moment to have a panic attack and I will guarantee you cannot. You may not realize it but you have always decided to panic. You make the choice by saying this is beyond my control.

Another way to appreciate this is to imagine having a panic attack as like standing on a cliff’s edge. The anxiety seemingly pushes you closer to falling over the edge.

To be rid of the fear you must metaphorically jump. You must jump off the cliff edge and into the anxiety and fear and all the things that you fear most.

How do you jump? You jump by wanting to have a panic attack. You go about your day asking for anxiety and panic attacks to appear.

Your real safety is the fact that a panic attack will never harm you. That is medical fact. You are safe, the sensations are wild but no harm will come to you. Your heart is racing but no harm will come to you. The jump becomes nothing more than a two foot drop! Perfectly safe.

Learn more by clicking here.


Barry McDonagh is an international panic disorder coach. His informative site on all issues related to panic and anxiety attacks can be found HERE.

How to Start Finding Love to Last A Lifetime

I haven't always been lucky at love. With three divorces, you could even say I'm a miserable failure. That's okay; fire away! Sadly, however, these failures created broken hearts, lives, and families. Nothing is worse than looking into the tearful eyes of a child and realizing you've destroyed their world.

That's why I'm so determined to help others, even strangers, prevent romantic breakups in their lives. By learning from my failures, perhaps you can have the healthy, loving relationship you deserve for the rest of your life.

Before finding Mister or Miss Perfect, do yourself a favor:

Take Your Time. For some reason—perhaps because most women ignored me prior to college, I felt compelled to rush into relationships without a second of thought. I felt I needed to make up for lost time by dating every woman who paid even the least bit of attention to me.

Such stupidity resulted in three failed marriages and a heaping helping of miserable dating experiences with women I had no business dating: a stalker, a computer hacker, and an odoriferous creature who believed bathing without soap made her clean.

Shop Around. One size does not fit all. Find a mate with whom you share the most in common. Though all good women, my exes and I were not well matched—at all. One abstained from social drinking, something I enjoyed on occasion. Another felt she was too educated to share in household duties. Yet another enjoyed a little harmless flirting.

It's my fault I married these women. For some reason, I believed I could mold these women into my heart's desire. All three of these ladies should have married someone else, yet I was too selfish—and lonely—to admit this. Believe me: Life is too short to do this even one time. But doing this three times?

Make Time to Talk. Learn about your date by or before your second date—before you begin to get serious. Politics? Religion? Drinking? Drugs? Marriage? Children? Education? Interests? Sex? No question should be off-topic between two reasonable, level-headed adults. Besides, if they aren't reasonable or level-headed, why are you going out with them?

Get everything out in the open before making the commitment to pursue this relationship further. Sure, saying goodbye to a potential date may sting temporarily. But this is nothing compared to a breakup or divorce later down the road!

Introduce Your Date to Family and Friends. This is one of the best ways to discover if your date fits into your family dynamics—and vice versa—considering your family is reasonably normal. How does your date relate to your family? Do they feel intimidated, uncomfortable, or relaxed? Do they want to retreat to the car immediately upon introductions?

Most family and friends will offer honest feedback about your date. They have your best interests in mind. Listen without interruption. Had I listened to my father, I wouldn't have married one of the women I dated.

Observe His or Her Family and Friends in Action. Away from you, your date will spend most of his or her time with loved ones. Observe how they communicate with you and each other. If they still treat you like a burden, a second-class citizen, or a contagious disease after an hour or so, make plans to bail out of this relationship before it gets serious.

My second set of in-laws didn't like me from the start, believing I was less educated than they due to my lowly bachelor's degree. Such dislike spilled over into my marriage, with my ex believing she was too educated to do any chores around the home. While I (the wimp) busily cooked, cleaned, and did yard work, she sat inside the house consuming tubs of ice cream.


Think. Don't jump into a relationship with both barrels blazing, assuming your relationship is perfect in every way. You're only fooling yourself.

Instead, spend some quiet alone time and reflect on your relationship. In a notebook, honestly write down both the pluses and minuses. Include his or her family in the equation. Don't over-analyze the relationship; but don't ignore the important things, either.

Remember: Life is too short for bad relationships. Make the most of life and love every day so you don't make the same mistakes I did!

Here's to your success!--Brian

What Do Real Women Want in A Real Man?

Recently, I was in a convenience store buying a bag of ice when I turned my head to see the most miserable couple in the universe. The man—a beefy, no neck kind of guy with six pack abs and bulging biceps—was putting his woman (his property, it seemed) down by calling her names.

“B, you don’t need any friggin’ candy bar, “No Neck snorted. “You’re a fat cow as it is!”

The attractive, young woman was Olive Oil skinny. She could have benefited from an entire bag of candy, much less one bar. But No Neck seemed intent on breaking her spirit, making her cry.

The store was filled with mostly men, many who thought about taking out the trash—hauling No Neck to the nearest dumpster. Yes, we thought and, yet, did nothing.

 Back in my truck, I thought about my own girlfriend (not my property). I love her. I’d never do such a hurtful thing. Yet, looking at my reflection in the mirror, I asked myself a direct question: Was I all the man to her as I needed to be? Of course, I reasoned, it had to be yes. In truth, however, I had to admit the answer was a sorrowful NO.

So, what does a woman want in a man? Simply put, real women want a real man that:

Listens. I don’t know about you, but I often find myself interrupting my girlfriend when she’s expressing her concerns. My interruptions are meant to be helpful, as if to assure her the problem or concern is minor. In turn, I’m dismissing her, saying “Your input, concern, situation, or problem is unimportant, honey.” Instead, I need to shut my mouth, look at her directly, and listen attentively. Her concerns matter.

Loves. Men are physical beings. We’d want sex even if Mister Happy was on fire! For women, however, love begins in the sexiest part of her anatomy—the brain. Don’t tell a woman that you love her; show her. Cook for her—and clean up immediately afterwards. Ask about her day—and actually listen. Do the laundry. Read to the children. Make her a warm bath. Love comes in all forms, not just between the sheets.

Understands. Understanding comes through keen observation and effective listening. Notice your special lady’s mood, body language, and silent messages. Listen for her verbal cues, voice inflection, and even the sound of her movement. Offer to help, yet don’t lean over her or whimper like a scolded puppy if she refuses. Sometimes, everyone needs a little breathing room or the right to resolve an issue on their own. Besides, she’ll ask you for help if needed.

Works. Women respect a man who works. Most women will understand if you’re out of a job due to the economy. But, she won’t understand if you’re lounging on the couch eating potato chips and watching sports all day. Grow some stones and man up. Do something. Do anything. Be productive. Make money, even if it means donating plasma.

Shares. Most men are not as verbally expressive as women. Tell her how you feel inside. Share information about your day, dreams, ideas, and, quite often, about your feelings. Let her know you find her to be the most incredible woman on the planet. Speak with enthusiasm. Speak from the heart. Just don’t write the Great American Novel.

Protects. No, I’m not talking about going Jackie Chan on someone who comes within three feet of your special lady. Instead, make sure to protect her heart, health, safety, and emotions on a daily basis. Let her know, through actions and few words, that you are her White Knight—always her shield in good times and bad. Do whatever it takes in the name of love.

Plays. In closing, I suggest you live, laugh, and love your special woman every single day—not just weekends. She is, after all, the love of your life. Make every day count.

7 Places to Find Great Dates

Though I’m not as old as Methuselah, I’ve met my fair share of dates: the good, the bad, and the downright ugly (and I’m not talking about looks, either). I’ve had my Hallmark moments—memorable dates which will happily remain forever in the cobwebbed corner of my mind. Sadly, I’ve had too many “what the heck was that?” disasters—nightmares from a B-grade horror film that seemed based on a Dean Koontz novel.

Such dating disasters, I believe, could have been avoided had I (A.) used my brain and (B) found someone at a more inviting place of interest instead of a redneck bar, Laundromat, or strip club. Below, I’ve included some places which I believe present a better quality of people than those previously mentioned sites.

· Book Stores. Go for the coffee; stay for the conversation. Bookstores are not just for overly intellectual, professorial types anymore. Women and men alike want someone they can effectively communicate with—not just Neanderthal grunts. Also, a well lit bookstore offers safety in numbers. Besides, if you get bored, you can enjoy your latte with a book or magazine that catches your interest.

· Networking. I am not talking about Facebook or Twitter, which are excellent online sites, but networking in the real world. More than likely, your town offers networking opportunities galore—in business (such as marketing or management), hobbies (such as pets or public speaking), or special interests (such as ethnic groups or politics). Strike up a conversation and see where it leads. For more information on local networking events, search the internet or browse your local newspaper.

· Special Events. Find someone special who shares your passion for music, running, the arts, wine tasting, finance, or other interests at local events. Like networking, the internet and newspapers (even radio and bulletin boards) are chock-full of such events. Participate and you never know what may happen.

· Speed Dating. Started by a rabbi to help Jewish singles meet, “Sex and The City” helped make this formalized matchmaking process a huge success with folks from all backgrounds. Though there is minimal cost to participate, the rewards far outweigh the price. After all, the willing participants are seeking the same thing you are—a positive relationship.

· Volunteer Work. Meet like-minded people in volunteer activities such as literacy, campaign, or charity work. Working together and making a difference often builds an awareness of others, as well. Seek out bulletin boards, the internet, and area news for more information.

· Places of Worship. Attending faith-based activities not only offers time to meditate, pray, and reflect—which are known to relieve stress, but may offer another benefit: meeting someone special. Realizing the need for singles to feel comfortable inside it’s doors, many in the faith-based community offer activities for this often ignored population. This is a nice, primarily safe place to meet someone sharing similar interests. Again, find out more about this growing trend in newspapers, bulletin boards, and online.

*  Online Dating Sites.  Today's lifestyles are extremely hectic.  Thanks to the internet, you can learn about a potential date before meeting him or her.  How?  Through online dating sites.  While not everyone online is honest, online dating sites take some of the guess work out your relationship search.  Many people I know try online dating.   How about you?

All the best in your journey of finding someone special with whom to share memories. I wish you all the luck in the world.