Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Fun for All or None for One?



Did you ever had a friend or coworker tell you that they couldn't
go to a fun event because their partner had to work, would be out
of town, or had some sort of conflict and wouldn't be able to make
it?

Many couples are inseparable--enjoying travel, shopping,
gardening, eating, playing, and working together. But many would feel
selfish if they went to some fun event without the other.

But, even the most solid relationships are NOT built on equal opportunity. My girlfriend lets me sleep in a little later on weekend mornings when she takes the pups outside for their morning ritual. In turn, I don't make her feel guilty about riding her motorcycle to visit friends when I have work. I chat or do things with my buddies--like male bonding moments--where we talk about things which would bore most ladies to tears. Kelly sometimes goes out to eat with a group of female friends without me tagging along.

We'd be missing out on so much if we decided that we could only have fun
together.

Enjoy the perks that your circumstance gives you.

If your loved one is offered a meal at the city's finest
restaurant, encourage them to take it even if you can't be there to
share it. If your boss gives you a free day pass to a spa and
resort, go and don't feel guilty that your partner couldn't join
you.

Some couples are willing to do this as long as they "equal out" in
the end. They rationalize that she can go on an all expense paid
three-day ski trip with her company only because last year he went
on a golf trip paid by his employer. In a truly loving and blissful
relationship you aren't keeping score of these things. You
naturally desire more good things for your mate than for yourself.

If your partner gets ten times as many perks as you do, be happy
for them. If you are the one getting all the cool stuff, be
grateful and accept it.

If you wait to do all the fun things only with your sweetheart,
both of you will eventually regret it.

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